Employing the services of a private investigator to establish if your partner is cheating or being disloyal is always a difficult decision; but not knowing is often more difficult.
If your partner is being unfaithful or deceitful then you certainly have the right to know. If they are not then you need proof in order to regain peace of mind. It is only by having the facts that you can either confront your partner or get on with your life if the results prove otherwise.
In some cases you will be sure your partner is being unfaithful or at best lying to you and you just need physical proof before you can confront them.
We can help, if only to eliminate your doubts, which will surely ease your burden and anguish.
JFA Brisbane offer a friendly, discreet and sympathetic approach to all inquiries.
Finding out the truth is a Five-Step-Process
Step 1. Become better informed. If you are uncertain about the infidelity, or would like to know more about what you can do and how to go about it, we suggest you start with reading the material below.
Step 2. Make a decision. You will need to decide whether you would like to know if your concerns are valid, and/or whether you need solid proof / video evidence of the affair.
Step 3. Timing. Timing is critical (and can keep your costs low). Almost every infidelity matter usually comes down to surveillance. If you can already pin-point the days and time-frames when you believe your partner might be seeing another person, then those days/times should be when the surveillance is conducted. Contact us with details of the days/times and the suburb where surveillance is to commence. We'll get back to you with a firm all-up price of conducting that surveillance.
If your partner's away-time is too erratic and cannot be easily pin-pointed, you will need to give consideration to some information gathering options such as GPS tracking. This is a far more cost-effective method for being able to pin-point locations and time-frames than manned surveillance.
Step 4. Contact us. Contact us and we will work on a viable strategy to provide you the information you need ... and finally some peace of mind.
Step 5. Stay calm and keep everything "normal". This is critical. Do not give you partner any reason to suspect you are curious about them. This is detailed below under the heading, The BIGGEST mistake you can make.
Thirty Five (35) Signs of Infidelity
The following are some typical signs of a cheating partner or infidelity. On their own, they do not mean your partner is definitely having an affair. They are simply pieces of a puzzle that might represent an overall picture or a pattern of conduct. But, they also mean you have a valid reason to be concerned.
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The BIGGEST mistake you can make!
The biggest mistake you can possibly make is to confront your partner before you have done an investigation. You should NOT let your partner know you are suspicious. He/she is already being secretive and hiding the truth from you. If you tip them off it will make it harder to find the truth.
If you asked them straight out they will deny it absolutely and, if you really think about it, they don’t have a choice. If they are not cheating on you, they have to deny it. If they are cheating, but they don’t want the relationship to end, they will deny it because it will either kill the relationship or badly damage it - something they don’t want. If they are cheating and they plan on leaving, experience tells us that they will lie to you until the very last moment for one of two reasons; the person they want to be with is not 110% committed to be with them indefinitely, or they feel that they cannot get divorced due to monetary concerns or a religious one. In short, there is almost no opportunity for the truth to come out on its own and if it does, the timing is completely controlled by the unfaithful partner.
The bottom line is that, if he/she knows or suspects you are onto them, then they will go to even greater lengths to cover their tracks, making it even more difficult for you to find out the truth.
So, what's next?
The next step is to contact us and provide some brief details of the circumstances surrounding your suspicions. It would also be helpful to know whether there is any pattern or routine (particular days and time-frames) to your partner's possible infidelity.
In almost all situations, surveillance becomes necessary to provide positive proof of the infidelity. However, where there is no solid pattern/routine in their activities, preliminary low-cost steps can be taken to obtain additional information to better pin-point any future targeted surveillance.
We would be happy to advise you (totally obligation free) on what can best be done for your particular situation.
Additional help and resources
5 Steps to healing the hurt of infidelity
Infidelity Expert - Stephany Alexander
So You've Found Out Your Partner Cheated - What Next? By Mel Chilton
Private investigation firms are often hired to check up on suspicions of infidelity. JFA Brisbane can certainly clear up any doubt on this matter - but what happens next is up to you. You are likely to go through three consecutive phases after discovering infidelity. The way in which you handle these will determine the future (or lack thereof) of your relationship.
The Crisis Phase involves a lot of anger and hurt. You will find yourself obsessed with precise details of the affair, and want to know everything. You will be angry with your partner, and angry with yourself. The blow to your trust may well result in plummeting libido, resulting in the withholding of sex. Conversely, you may find yourself having lots of 'angry sex'. This may be due partly due to something referred to in the natural world as 'mate guarding' - an attempt to protect your pair bond.
The Crisis Phase often cools to a more reflective, contemplative phase. During the Insight Phase, you may begin to concentrate on untangling the fraying knot of emotions which wrapped itself around you during the Crisis Phase. Communication, therapy, and empathy can really help a couple to move forward during this phase.
It is during the Vision Phase that the fate of the relationship will become clear. It may well be that you have fallen out of love, and wish to part. This can be achieved amicably if enough empathy has been generated during the Insight Phase. If you have managed to rekindle and erotic connection, and are prepared to continue with your relationship, the Vision Phase is when you must sit down and - with complete openness and honesty - set out a new vision for your future relationship.
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